Worrying about everyone is often my biggest issue at Christmas. I always get that nagging guilt — have I bought the right presents, should I buy more, have I seen everyone I should? There’s also pressure to keep up with the latest toys for the kids, and I feel guilty when work keeps me busy right up to the holiday.
Children love presents, but the joy is usually short-lived. What they really need is stability, love and time with you. That can be especially hard after a separation, when kids can feel caught in the middle. If contact with your children is being blocked, get legal advice to help sort things out so you can focus on spending time with them.
Money is a major stress at Christmas. Big-ticket items like consoles and games are expensive, and with rising living costs and a cold winter to heat for, it’s not sensible to spend beyond your means. Buying only what you can afford will save you stress later and help you keep the house warm.
Food waste spikes over the holidays — in the UK it’s estimated to be the equivalent of 42 million Christmas dinner plates. That’s both wasteful and costly, and it can add to your guilt. Plan portions and consider alternatives, like a smaller roast chicken instead of a turkey and fewer or smaller vegetable portions, to reduce leftovers.
Going into debt to fund the festivities can haunt you long after the season ends. Loans and maxed-out credit cards may give short-term relief but can lead to spiralling repayments and a damaged credit score. Stick to your budget to avoid that burden.
Missing loved ones who have passed can make Christmas especially hard. The grief and associated guilt are intense in the first few years. Mark their memory by sharing stories, raising a glass to them, and celebrating the times you had together.
Feeling guilty at Christmas is common. You can ease the pressure by prioritising time with the kids, cutting waste, avoiding unnecessary debt, and honouring those who are no longer with you. Simple traditions and shared moments often matter far more than expensive gifts.
